About

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My name is Joey Lott. I’m a human living in the 21st century.

I’ve worn many hats, as they say.

Anorexic. Obsessive-compulsive (once upon a time this was my near full-time occupation – no joke). Meditator. Yogi. Enlightened. Father. Confused. Know-it-all. Computer programmer. Entrepreneur. Son. Brother. Friend. Author.

Once upon a time I blogged about anything I wanted here.

Then a strange thing happened; I began to cater to a niche audience: those interested in non-dualism.

I did so because I had a weird, unquestioned belief that it made sense to do so – that writing about anything and everything I wanted would push away that audience.

And I had it in mind that somehow I could “help” those interested in non-dualism. So I confusedly stopped blogging about anything else.

That was kind of dull. And, frankly, deceptive and unhelpful.

Here’s the thing: if there is one problem that eats away at our collective life, it is dishonesty.

One of the biggest lies is that there exist perfected people (and that it is possible and desirable to become one).

People are messy. People are confused. People are not perfected.

The lie of perfected people – people who don’t make mistakes or have perfect knowledge in any domain, much less all domains – is hurtful to those who believe it.

We’re all capable of great good, great evil, and a great deal of mundanity. So-called enlightenment doesn’t exempt anybody. It just awakens one to one’s capacity for great good, great evil, and mundanity.

I have decided to make an effort to make this blog a more transparent and more honest look at an imperfect person – me. That means blog posts that are about more of me and my life and my confusion and struggles – not just lectures about how to “wake up”.

Imperfect people have something to offer us if they are honest. Honesty is the key.

Honesty from one who is awakened to his imperfection and his capacities can reflect our own imperfection and capacities to us.

It offers us the opportunity to tell the truth.

And in telling the truth, we can realize our inherent freedom to be ourselves.

To me, the lie of the perfect person serves to maintain the hell of trying to hide ourselves.

We don’t need to hide.

Just be yourself.

That’s a process, of course. Don’t expect to get the right answer. Life seems to be a process of discovering delusion. Just being yourself is not about beingĀ perfectly yourself. It is about telling the truth and recognizing delusion…over and over and over.

It’s humbling.

And it’s messy.

And it’s honest.

 

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