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It may be tempting to believe that the purpose of life is success. However, what is the basis of that success? What does it mean to be successful? And how do I know what success is or what defines success? When I look sincerely, I see that my ideas about success are all based on… Continue reading The vital importance of failure

What I want is peace. I want peace more than I want anything else. More than I want money. More than I want sex. More than I want power. More than I want to be right. More than I want immortality. More than I want respect. But I forget this truth when I get spooked.… Continue reading Keep it simple and sustainable

When I dream at night, anything can happen. I can be anywhere. I can be anyone. I can do anything. When I wake in the morning, however, none of the dream remains. It is gone. Where did it go? This might seem like it is too trivial of a matter to really care about. After… Continue reading The dreamer and the dream

For many of us, the habit of worry is a strong one. Some have theorized that humans have been selectively bred by life to focus more on the negative than the positive. The theory is that historically, those who have been more naturally attentive to potential threats have been more likely to survive and reproduce.… Continue reading But what about real threats?

I received an email today from someone who read a book I wrote years ago on the subject of misophonia (extreme sound sensitivity). I responded to the person, and then I realized that the message I wrote is pretty good advice generally. So I’d like to share it with you here. Let me preface this… Continue reading On reversing the groove of misery and hypervigilance

I might think that I have a many different problems. For example, I might think that I am experiencing fatigue, that I don’t have enough money, and that my children aren’t behaving the way I think they should. In fact, I’d estimate that that 99% of my thoughts are simply a list of all the… Continue reading Avoidance versus inquiry: how to feel better